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Long-distance couples also reported sharing more with their partners, and feeling like their partners were really listening.“You always hear people say ‘long-distance relationships suck’ or ‘long-distance relationships never work out,’” Jiang says.
Three million Americans live apart from their spouses (for reasons other than divorce or discordance), Jiang says.Richard Smith, 28, started dating Nicole Kendrot, 26, when they both lived in Rochester, N. Shortly after they got together, she accepted a job offer in New York City -- and they've been dating long-distance ever since.(They visit each other and take trips at least every three weeks - in this picture, they're in San Diego in October 2012.) Long distance relationships never work, the colloquial wisdom goes.Or rather, they'll work for a while: You’ll trade a few texts, Skype a few times, maybe even visit once in a while.But the heartache of being apart and living separate lives will start to wear on you, and soon enough, things will fizzle out.true, according to a small but growing number of social science studies.
Long-distance relationships are, in many ways, stronger than relationships between couples who live together or close by, shows a new study published today in the Journal of Communication.
“While the public and the science community hold a pessimistic view towards long distance (LD), this research provides compelling support for the opposite side – long distance is not necessarily inferior to geographically close dating,” says Crystal Jiang, an assistant professor of communication at City University of Hong Kong.
Jiang's research found that people in long-distance relationships reported feeling emotionally closer to their partners than people in relationships with people who were literally -- geographically -- closer.
It's a trend that’s has spawned the term “commuter marriages” in recent headlines reflecting the new realities of tough economic times -- you've got to go where the job is, after all.
And many college students, not surprisingly, live apart from their partners – up to 50 percent are in a long-distance relationship, according to one estimate in a 2005 report.
It gets harder to estimate how many non-married, non-college students are in long-distance relationships, but according to one estimate, 14 percent of dating relationships were long-distance, according to the Center for the Study of Long-Distance Relationships.